Hypocritical Assault

Everyone is hypocrites. This is just pure human nature at it's finest. So it would be assumed that since we're all hypocrites, everyone would accept it and just admit people have faults. But this isn't the case. People are very quick to judge. (Again another sign of being human.) It seems impossible for others to be considerate and be like "You know what, people make mistakes." Why is this??? Why can't most people admit that it is ok to be wrong??? Why is it that most people cannot both forgive and forget???

This has been driving me crazy for some time now. I'm not even sure how to answer these questions because i am not even remotely close to as what the answer might be. Yet i will give it a shank. :D

"Why is this...or why is it impossible for others to admit that others are wrong?" Basically this is because most people are self centered. They assume that since they aren't ever wrong then everyone else is the same way. Or maybe it is that each person has such high expectations for each other that when one falls through, or fails to complete a task, we are let down and our trust is broken. This reminds me of a theory we learned in psych, i am not so sure of the name, but basically it states that we assume that everyone is in the same mental state that we are. For example, if one person is quite confident, then everyone is confident.

"Why is it that most people cannot both forgive and forget???" This one is something that i strive to do. But most people believe that living by this way is false. so first off, i will state my opinion on truly forgiving. Ok so now if you forget but don't forgive, then you are just stupid because you forgot what has been happening but there is still a grudge there. Not very good at all. If you forgive but not forget, are you really forgiving them? Seriously tho, most people would agree that it would be completely forgiving, yet i don't see it that way. The way i view it is that everyone makes judgements about others based on both first impressions and actions. Now the way we act around people are based on our judgements. So if we forgive a person, yet don't forget what has occurred, is it possible that we are truly able to forgive? I don't think so, because for the mere fact that we will still act different around the person, no matter what the consequences are. Therefore, forgiving and forgetting is the best plan in my book. People deserve complete second chances. No matter, how hard you try, you cannot have another second chance unless the person forgets the unexcusable act in the first place.

Now, to answer the question, basically everyone has trust issues. People cannot trust people completely no matter how hard they try. There will be skeptisism SOMEWHERE. Therefore, if a person forgives but doesn't forget, it shows what is previously stated. People think that we (both forgivers and forgetters) are naive, but i would say that we might be, but i would much rather give someone a complete clean slate, rather than saying that there is one, and not actually give one. *Hypocrites!*

All in all, i just believe that all humans have trust issues somewhere deep inside them. but if you are one that does not, then i applaud you. It is awesome to be able to have faith in others. If only i could do that....